How My Wife Has Adjusted to Increasing Bouts of Anxiety
What happens when you mix the following events together: the war in Ukraine, climate change, rising gas prices, supply chain issues, and a pandemic? It’s a recipe for a rising tide of anxiety.
Scroll through social media or peruse any of the major news outlets, and the steady drumbeat of people around the world expressing sadness, helplessness, anxiousness, and hopelessness can feel overwhelming. Huntington’s (HD), a wicked rare disease, causes a similar minefield of mental health issues for those who are gene-positive.
I am here to shine a ray of sunshine into all of this despair. Please take inspiration from my wife, Jill, who was declared gene-positive for HD in 2018. Realizing she would face a tsunami of mental health challenges, she decided to seek help for the depression and general anxiety that surfaced after her diagnosis.
After consultations with her doctors, she started taking antidepressants, which helped, but her anxiety was more difficult to treat. So she worked on finding ways to manage it. She began seeing a therapist, improved her diet, and started working out. She downloaded meditation apps and began working on strategies for dealing with the anxiety.
She thought she had been managing it well, but a shift recently occurred. In the past year, normal life events that never made her feel anxious before now caused her anxiety — for instance, looking for work, going to the grocery store, and hanging out with groups of people.
When I noticed all of this occurring, I asked her what was wrong. She said that anticipating events made her anxious, which she realized was irrational. It reminded her of her late father, who also had Huntington’s.
She remembers how her father would pace back and forth when he had to go somewhere with others. He would ask repeatedly when and where they were going, and by the time they left, he was an emotional mess. Most of the time, he could be persuaded to go, but sometimes he wouldn’t leave the house.
The anxiety her dad felt eventually led him to take anti-anxiety medication, which worked for a while. Over time, though, he built up a tolerance to it.
What Jill is feeling is similar to what her father felt, but she doesn’t want to start taking pills until her anxiety is too much for her to handle. She is trying different techniques, such as yoga, to control it because she doesn’t want it to control her.
I share all of this to serve as inspiration. Jill refuses to bow down to her mental health issues. She is not in denial from them. She takes proactive steps to maintain a healthy mindset. She talks to me and her therapist about what she is feeling. She hopes that telling me she is anxious will help her break what she calls a negative thought loop.
Around the world, anxiety seems to be winning. HD families understand what that means all too well. But as my wife’s mindset indicates, anxiety doesn’t have to rule us — or win.
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