Why I Choose to Be Like Water

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“Parting is such sweet sorrow,” Shakespeare once wrote. And don’t I know it.

Recently, the big news in my home is we’re moving to the East Coast, as my wife, Jill, and I want to move closer to our daughter, who lives in Boston, and other family members scattered in several locations in Pennsylvania, Virginia, and Maryland.

Once Jill and I notified our co-workers and circle of friends outside of work that we were leaving, many of them expressed sadness that they won’t be frequently seeing us in person anymore.

That’s what Shakespeare meant when he referenced sorrow. It’s sad to know that we may not see many colleagues and friends in the Midwest again or talk to them as much as we do now. However, the sweetness of parting is remembering everything we’ve shared with them, the good and the bad. It’s also sweet to look forward to the adventure that awaits us after we move.

As I look at my living room now, which is cluttered with boxes, I have been conscientious about not letting stress get to me like it does many folks. I came across a recent study that said moving is more stressful for many people than going through a divorce.

I have tried to channel my energy for the move into things other than stress, and I want to be more like water. What does that mean? I got this mindset from Bruce Lee, the late martial artist, actor, and director, who once said, “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless — like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. … [W]ater can flow, or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”

How I interpret that quote is that I need to go with the flow. This mindset applies to people in the Huntington’s disease community, because HD represents a giant tsunami that crashes into gene-positive families and their caregivers with gigantic force, overwhelming many and causing us to feel like we’re drowning.

Talk about stress!

But if we become like water, we don’t drown. What I’ve been trying to work on is to not fight what’s going on — for instance, not become bitter, sad, or depressed that my wife and daughter are gene-positive for HD — but rather to become flexible and to grow, change, and adapt to the situation.

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So, rather than stressing about the move, I’m flowing with it, seeing it as a chance to meet wonderful new people and be closer to family, and to continue working on becoming a better man so I can be the best caregiver possible for my wife.

When Jill’s HD symptoms get worse in the years ahead, I hope to continue to be like water — calm and still, like a pond on a hot summer’s day, when the occasion calls for it — and maneuver my way around the rocks of life, like water rippling downstream in the rapids.

The alternative is to be like a box — enclosed, surrounded by walls, with no room to grow beyond its confined dimensions. That image makes me feel stifled and powerless.

Rather than get hit by the tsunami that is Huntington’s, I would rather be the tsunami, able to freely flow and shape-shift at a moment’s notice, pouring out into the world, ready for anything, knowing that I will be able to adapt and not resist whatever the roller coaster of life throws at me.

When life gets too overwhelming as you and your family face HD, don’t be boxes — be like water.


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Elaine Carr avatar

Elaine Carr

Wonderfully said.

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Carlos Briceño

Thank you!

James Giardino avatar

James Giardino

Love it. Different perspective, I loved the Bruce Lee quote and now you made me look at it in our families Huntington Life in a different way
Thanks for advise.
I am like water!

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Carlos Briceño

You're so welcome, Mr. Giardino. I like your spirit and am grateful that my words resonated with you.

Janet Polizois avatar

Janet Polizois

Carlos, your insight and words are so powerful. I look forward to your weekly articles. Being like water is to be powerful and flexible at the same time. Thank you! God bless you and your family. Good luck w your move!

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Carlos Briceño

Thanks for your kind words, Mrs. Polizois. I really appreciate them. Having faithful readers who check in each week, like yourself, is like having a friend come along for a ride. So thanks for your friendship and, if I am assuming correctly, if you or a loved one of yours has HD, please know that my heart goes out to you and may God bless you and yours as you deal with the ups-and-downs of this disease.


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